Awesome life - proof that it does happen!

Salutations Friends and Neighbors!

I am writing this as a letter to all of you who are worried about your life.  This may come across as bragging, and to be honest it likely is, however I must let you all know that the awesome life can be found.  It is not easy - but nothing worthwhile is really easy. 

I have, as you are all aware, married a wonderful woman.  Mrs. Bat is an excellent person who is beautiful and smart and all sorts of awesome.  She is also something that is rare to find - she is that girl that not only tolerates my more eccentric hobbies - but embraces and supports them.   She plays games, watches movies and writes stories.  She is a great wife and partner to me, as I endeavor to be to her.

Over the past couple of weeks Mrs. Bat has even taken up that wonderfully time consuming game of Warhammer.  She has enjoyed painting for a long time, however she had never really took to playing the game.  Nevertheless she started playing the game over the past week and she has kinda gotten hooked.   She is even branching out and trying new armies.   What is more, she is legitimately whipping me on the table.  Mrs. Bat has had marginal if not major victories against Franz too. 

Now I am here to tell you how lucky I am.  Mrs. Bat is not one of those gamer girls that bought a t-shirt that has an NES controller on it or some dice and a slogan and thusly calls herself a nerd.  She actually knows the game.  She loves Settlers of Catan.  She levels World of Warcraft and pays attention to rotations.  She does not dismiss things as "guy stuff" and she embraces the fun in RPGs.  She also takes showers and is fully capable of navigating in society (not some basement dwelling social outcast type.)  A fully rounded person who knows time and place and is able to mingle with the multiple cultures.

I am not saying she is unique - but she is one of the special breed.  One that I am most lucky and amazed to have in my life. 

This might not sound like a lot to some of you, but those of you who know what it is like hear me.  I know that a few of my compatriots in the world have the S.O. who shares their interests, however it is all to often the case that she merely tolerates the occasional dalliance into such things and will leave such pastimes alone.   There are those women who can justify a collection of dozens of shoes, purses and clothes to fill a room and more jewelry than Jack Sparrow- yet the acquisition of some pewter and plastic models is considered excessive.   Far too many of my brothers in arms have been culled from the ranks of the gaming population by use of mockery and intimidation from their lady - made to feel as if their hobby is something to be ashamed of.  Some girls will rattle on and on about their personal habits and past-times - calling the adventures of 'real' housewives and 'top' models being somehow less stigmatic than games of strategy and chance or movies about heroic deeds. 

And their men accept this fate.  They move their hobbies to the garage, to 'caves' and other areas which are increasingly partitioned until such a time as the shame overtakes them and the man is forced to give up what he loves about them.  These men see no alternative.  There is no other way.

I am here to tell you that it does not have to be so.  Mrs. Bat is a shining example of how a relationship should be.  She and I share our lives, goals and achievements.  Now it is true that we each have our own seperate purviews, I for example am more into horror movies than she is - she conversely can find things that appeal to her (inexplicably to me) in Ru Paul's Drag race.   However, she has found fervor in many of the same hobbies, TV shows and games that I do. 

It can be the same for you.  Don't think that you have to settle for someone who will trash your 'geeky interests.'  Find the one who will embrace them.   As long as you are not going overboard, you will discover the most wonderful fulfillment of what is possible.  Don't get discouraged - keep looking. 

As always,

Be Excellent to Each Other

~BAT

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